When you become a parent, you sign on for all kinds of jobs--
Nurse, Counselor, Chef, Maid, Fashion Advisor, Confidant, Disciplinarian, Tutor, and the list goes on.
But in my opinion there is one title that is one of our most important jobs as a parent-- the job of ADVOCATE.
I have always been Jess' champion; the one that sings her praises and defends her and encourages her and makes sure that she knows that she is loved and amazing even when she does not feel that way. And as a high school principal, I cannot tell you how many parents I have sat across the table from whom I had to REMIND that it was their job to be their child's advocate. Parents get so busy being all those tangible kinds of roles, that we forget the more abstract ones. But being your kid's advocate is not a job you can neglect.
What made me think of this role was a blog post that one of my dear friends (LF) made today about her daughter who would be celebrating a birthday this week. She teased at the beginning of the blog, asking her readers to "indulge her" just this once to change the content of her blog over to her daughter. Many of us answered back in a teasing way, "allowing" LF this one indulgence, but then I read a comment from another dear friend (JD).
JD shared a story about a post she had made about her daughter and an accomplishment that the daughter had achieved this past year; quite a big accomplishment, in fact. Well, long story short, one of JD's friends posted a comment that she felt that it was a bit over the top for JD to BRAG (yes, direct quote) about her daughter and her accomplishment and in fact, she felt a bit put out by the whole thing.
ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME?!
What is happening to people?
If we don't toot our kids' horns, who will?
We KNOW for a fact they will be bullied, picked on, teased, and embarrassed during their school years, so isn't it awesome to think that in the midst of all that, they can COUNT on at least one person to always be there, ready to praise, to defend, to encourage and yes, TO TOOT THEIR HORNS!
So to LF and JD--KEEP TOOTING!
(Btw, that is a VERY Texas thing to say, so I hope you get the idea!)
Sing your kids' praises, both big and small, defend them when the world is attacking them, hold their hands when they are nervous, encourage them when they are unsure, and BE THEIR CHAMPION for as long as you have breath in you.
And NEVER NEVER apologize for it!
This is my daughter of whom I am immensely proud and I am not ashamed to say it. SHE ROCKS!